Wearing Two Together

Q: Chris from Columbus, Ohio asks…

I’m due with my fourth child in January. What two carriers will work together the best so I can carry my toddler and the new baby?

A: Congratulations! When you add a new baby to the family it can be a challenging time for everyone. Having the ability to carry your children and keep your hands free will be vital!

The best way to wear two children at once is to have one on front and one on the back. Your toddler will go on your back, and your newborn in front. We’ll start with the newborn.

You will need something that is easy to ‘pop’ your newborn into for a front carry. Our favorite is the Moby Wrap. This carrier can be wrapped on yourself first using easy-to-follow instructions and once it’s in place you can work on getting the toddler on your back. Another option for the newborn would be a Ring Sling or Pouch.

To get your toddler on your back a Mei Tai or soft structured carrier would be the easiest. Go ahead and get the toddler on first, securing the waist strap of the carrier under the Moby Wrap, and the shoulder straps over the Moby. Then you can pop your newborn in the Moby and spread out all the layers of fabric. With a carrier like the Beco Butterfly or Ergo, you probably will not be able to fasten the chest clip in front of you. If this doesn’t work well for your body shape, then choose the Mei Tai, which usually hugs closer to your body and fits better backpack style.

Babywearing Skills

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Watching the kids at their class today made me think about babywearing not only as a way to tote your baby around, get stuff done around the house, and as an artform, but learning to babywear is like learning a new gymnastics routine – it’s all about safety and physical skills!!!  Learning the right amount of pressure to pull your strap to get it to tighten in JUST the right way! Learning how to manipulate the sling rings to get the tension of the rails pulled snugly and evenly!  And don’t even get me started on the mad skillz needed to wrap!  Babywearing covers all the bases from appearance – lovely – to convenience – very – to stretching your brain and body!!!

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*happy babywearing*

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BB Tai in Pineapple!

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Wearing Baby #6 on my back in the oh-so-comfortable Pineapple BB Tai!!! The BB Tai is a lovely wrap conversion mei tai with a “regular” price tag! The straps are wider, more comfortable than the other popular Mei Tais, with a more relaxed body panel and scrunchable hood however the top shoulder straps are shorter! These carriers are VERY popular in Europe, and you will see in many pictures, the BB Tai can be worn with the straps tying in front instead of coming back to your back again!

Get your own here!

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*happy babywearing*

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Be a good neighbor!

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Do you love babies?  Do you love babywearing?   Please help save a baby’s life by writing an email to discourage people from reselling their Infantino Sling Riders!  And help to save babywearing from getting a bad rep through these accidents and deaths from dangerous carriers!  Although these Infantino carriers have been recalled and are not being manufactured any longer, they are still being passed from unknowing babywearer to naive new mommy! Google Craig’s List and email the national listing addresses with a letter listing the reasons to destroy their sling and NOT to resell it!   Or put up a Want Ad at Freecycle!  I’ve already had 2 responses to my ad and will be picking up my Slings of Death this weekend to dispose of permanently!  Impress upon them the fact that $5 or $10 is a small price to pay when saving a baby’s life!!!  If you see a babywearer still actively using a “bag sling,” hand them one of our print-at-home babywearing cards in the hopes of introducing them to a safer, more comfortable, longer lasting baby carrier!

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If you need ideas on what to do with your Slings of Death after that, just ask!  I have some great ways to destroy these slings and get some aggression out too!  Heeheee!

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*happy babywearing*

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the “Backwards” Ring Sling

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How does that saying go?  Need is the mother of invention???  Well, this busy mama had a babywearing need with her newborn, so the “Backwards tummy to tummy” hold was invented!!! A brand new way to wear your Ring Sling while staying safe and ergonomic!!  It’s ingenious & creative & crazy, but oh so comfortable!!!!   Watch the video on the PAXbaby YouTube channel, give it a try, become a believer, and send me action pix!!!!  Heheeee!

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*happy babywearing*

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Babywearing Daddy

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Babywearing mamas, take a look at this babywearing video demonstrating how daddies can bond with their babies through babywearing and also safe sling positioning, and I dare you

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#1 – NOT drool over this handsome babywearing daddy

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#2 – NOT tear up at the end when he kisses his little tiny baby!

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I DOUBLE dare you!!!


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*happy babywearing*

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Meet Laura!

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With all the drama and publicity regarding safe babywearing, PAXbaby wants to do our part to raise the public awareness about safe slinging!  This means more blog posts regarding babywearing safety, promoting safety by talking to babywearing parents that we meet, and most importantly, having a safety expert available for questions and help for our own PAXbaby customers!!!   We want to make 100% positive that you are practicing safe babywearing so expect an email from Laura after you receive your carrier checking up on you and offering any help you may need!  Remember, when you wear your baby out in public, other moms and moms-to-be are watching and learning from you, and we all want to be showing off our very best babywearing skills, right???  Any questions, concerns, or comments are welcome – please email me at jillian (at) PAXbaby.com, respond to Laura’s email when she writes to you, or post at PAXbaby’s FaceBook page!  And if you don’t have any safety issues, GREAT!  But we’d LOVE to see babywearing pictures of our favorite carriers in action, so please do send us pix!!!

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Laura is a babywearing mommy to 2 little ones, Toddler C and Baby M, and has completed a babywearing safety course, certifying her to be PAXbaby’s baby wearing safety expert!   Watch our blog for lots more pictures of Laura wearing C and M; they are sure cute!   Laura knows SSCs, mei tais, & ring slings like the back of her hand and is a superb wrapper!  Have questions?  Bring them on, she’s ready for you!!!

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*happy babywearing*

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PAXbaby #6′s FIRST babywearing

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As soon as I found out that I was pregnant, I have been looking forward – OK, that’s an understatement – DYING for the day that PAXbaby #6 arrived so I could babywear a new squishy baby!  There is truly NOTHING like that feeling of your brand new baby cuddled against your chest, sweet breath on your neck, and perfect head cupped under your chin!  Besides which, the ability to do pretty much anything hands-free provides NO excuse for NOT having a new baby, right?  I may be a bit baby crazy, but to me, giving my older children a new sibling is the BEST gift ever and the best excuse for me to hoard away a slew of new carriers bringing me (this close) to “stash nirvana!”

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Anyway, enough chat, down to specifics!  PAXbaby #6, Declan, was born Sunday morning at almost sunrise, after 12 days of prodromal labor and an awesome 12 minutes of pushing!  We had planned a water birth at home, and successfully pulled it off, making Declan the 5th Davidsson baby born at home, and 3rd water baby!  His siblings woke up an hour later to the sound of “new baby meowing sounds” and were ecstatic to finally get to meet their new little bubby!  At 9 pounds 10 ounces, Declan is my biggest baby by far, and has this whole nursing thing DOWN!  Today was his first babywearing experience (at 36 hours old!) so I could video tape his oldest brother’s birthday cake and singing (Eli turned 8 today and said that his baby brother was his BEST present!) and I chose a Sakura Bloom LINEN RING SLING in Blackberry to wear!  Declan was swaddled in a light muslin blanket aready so I popped the entire baby burrito upright into the sling with his head nice and high – close enough to kiss – and the tail wrapped around the rings just in case he slipped a bit in the sling.

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PAXbaby Sakura Bloom newborn babywearing

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How long have I waited for that first magical babywearing moment?

9 months

How long will I wear my new baby?

AS LONG AS HE WILL LET ME

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*happy babywearing*

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Wearing Wednesday

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Just say NO!

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PAXbaby structured backpack improper positioning

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Thanks to PAXbaby #5 for falling asleep while your daddy did lawn work!  You provided a great learning lesson while being worn in a structured framed backpack – improper spine positioning, dangling legs, unsupported head!  My poor lil fella woke up with his feet asleep and an unhappy face!  Please help your baby to be comfortable in your carrier of choice by providing a comfortable place to sleep (your shoulder or chest!), keeping their legs in the proper M position, and an ergonomic upright position!  For toddler babywearing, the Beco Butterfly II, Manduca, BabyHawk Oh Snap!, or the Boba are PAXbaby’s best baby carrier recommendations for your heavy baby!

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*happy babywearing*

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Babywearing safety

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**WARNING FOR SENSITIVE READERS — BABY DEATH IS MENTIONED IN THE LINKED ARTICLE**

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You might have seen this article if you’re a member of the Babywearing Safety group on Facebook (and if you’re not, you should be!) or if you stumbled across it through another media source. Our hearts go out to everyone involved in what seems like a tragic accident involving lack of education.

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However, the article quotes a doctor whose statements need some clarification.  Please keep in mind that mainstream doctors tend not to be very educated about babywearing in general, and Dr Lasser’s comments show precisely that, and please keep in mind that the term “harness carrier” applies to the “crotch dangling” brands such as Infantino and Jeep, not any of the baby carriers sold or recommended at PAXbaby:

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“Dr. Michael Lasser, a Cortlandt pediatrician on the staff at Hudson Valley Hospital Center, said harness-type carriers shouldn’t be used for newborns.”

“I wouldn’t recommend them for someone so young,” he said. “Anything that might constrict the ability of a baby to breathe is a problem. At that age, I tell my patients to carry the baby in their arms or use a bassinet.”

He said newborns breathe at a rate of 40 to 50 times per minute and that their breathing is very shallow.

“It doesn’t take much to influence that, so I would advise against using any kind of carrier that might make breathing more difficult,” he said.

Harness carriers are appropriate for a baby at 2 months old, depending on his or her size, he said.

“If you have a very small baby, you’ll want to wait longer,” Lasser said. “I tell parents that the harness carriers are a good thing to use at 2 1/2 or 3 months.PAXbaby.com

Harness carriers (sometimes referred to as “crotch danglers”) such as the Baby Bjorn or Infantino can be a safe option for newborns provided they’re used according to the instructions provided with specific reference to infant size and positioning. They are not always the BEST option, but they are not necessarily an UNSAFE option. ANY carrier can be used in an unsafe manner, which is why it’s imperative that caregivers be fully aware of the instructions for use for any device (bassinet, car seat, carrier, sling, etc.) that they’re entrusting to hold their precious baby. For a healthy, full-term newborn, a carrier can be a loving and safe option to keep mom (or dad!) and baby close and snuggly.

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Dr. Lasser also makes another statement which requires clarification:

“There should be enough space for the baby to be comfortable while upright and still able to curl sideways.”PAXbaby.com

Babies without enough torso control to sit unassisted should NEVER be left to “curl up” in a carrier by themselves. It is ABSOLUTELY CRITICAL that the positioning in the carrier be done only by the parent to ensure that the baby is in a safe position that will allow for proper airflow!

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He does make one very important point regarding any baby-holding device, though.

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“The most important thing is to always monitor your baby. If you’re paying attention, you’ll see if he or she is uncomfortable or is having trouble.”PAXbaby.com

From the limited info available, it seems that this infant passed due to lack of airflow from a loving and well-meaning parent trying to keep her warm. Winter babywearing is a GREAT way for wearer and wearee to stay warm and snuggly, but as mentioned above, it is critical that the carrier and positioning be monitored to provide for clear airflow for the newborn, even if it is cold air.  Many people who have had winter babies in cold northern climates say that wearing an infant as opposed to carrying her in a bucket car seat is entirely doable and extremely convenient, but that care must be taken to keep baby warm and to ensure good airflow.

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Our hearts go out to everyone involved in this tragedy, and to all of the parents who are now worried that their newfound love of babywearing may be unsafe. Educate educate educate, not only yourself, but those around you! For more info on SAFE babywearing, see the above Facebook group or The Babywearer or refer to these safety tips:

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*Make sure you are following the carrier manufacturer’s recommendations and have read the available instruction materials.

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* Make sure baby doesn’t get overheated. Our bodies radiate a lot of heat and that serves to keep baby warm in the carrier. There shouldn’t be a reason to wrap baby in a blanket while in a carrier. Dress baby in one layer less while using a carrier as your body heat and the carrier itself add an extra layer.

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*Baby should be high enough for you to be able to kiss the top of his head. This way you are better able to monitor his breathing and make sure baby’s head is to the side.

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*happy and SAFE babywearing*

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