Milk sharing aka wetnursing



Milk sharing aka wet nursing or cross-nursing is really common among my group of friends! Many of us have nursed each other’s babies, toddlers, and kids out of necessity or even just to boost our little ones’ immune strength! It’s a truly wonderful way to bond with your most cherished friends; my kids now have milk siblings. Their milk mamas have shared the bond of physical closeness as well as the antibodies that comes from one’s own milk. I can’t think of a more perfect way to show love as a mommy friend!

It’s sad but true that for many years, I felt tethered to my babies who were each exclusively breastfeed for almost 12 months. Until I found my community here in Southern California, I couldn’t physically leave my children without a back up feeding source but once I found my village, I allowed myself to leave my young baby in the care of dear friends who would breastfeed her as needed. My plight of not bottle training and yet desperately needing to go on a date with my husband was solved with one simple statement. “Please feed her when she seems hungry!” Suddenly, our options widened, and PAXdaddy and I have enjoyed quite a few dates since the birth of our daughter in 2013 by leaving she and our 6 older children with friends as well as having provided childcare for other friends wanting to escape the clutches of their little milk monster for a few hours!


I myself have been able to feed many of my friends’ babies for a plethora of reasons! I was very proud to put my lactating breasts to work one night when I was a doula at a friend’s birth. She had a trauma shortly after delivering her baby so I nursed her newborn through the night while also taking care of my own sweet 5 month old baby. The next morning I put out a call for help, and an army of mutual friends arrived to help with the new baby and also to keep baby’s tummy full of 100% breastmilk! I still marvel at that amazing week and how a group of women could come together to keep one little baby well nourished, clean, comforted while her mommy was under the weather.

At 32 months old, my daughter, Cate, was still breastfeeding and enjoying the mommy cuddles that it’s hard to find in a large busy family! When our 8th baby, Blaise, was born at just 15 weeks, my milk dried up leaving Cate high and dry. Luckily for her, an entire herd of lactating friends came during the month of May to care for me, my husband, and my children as I recovered from the loss of our beloved baby. She nursed from several mothers over the course of the month and now refers to one of our closest friends as “Mama Milk.” I am so grateful to each and every friend who offered to breastfeed my sweet girl. It means so much to me and made the transition to being a non-lactating mother much easier and less emotional.



At PAXretreat last week, PAXfriend Evonne had a little snuggle time with #toddlerCate. My lovie was over the moon with the fresh milk, and Evonne was happy to fill her little tummy with liquid gold. I cannot wait to have another baby, have my milk come in, and be able to feed someone else’s baby straight from the tap!



*happy breastfeeding*



A Charming Collection


Thank you, A Charming Collection, for your generous donation of these adorable BUNNY loveys! *awwwww*
Aren’t they precious?? Your little one will love snuggling up to one of these cuties!

*happy babywearing*

The PAX dream team

We are small but mighty!!!!
In a nutshell, there’s me, PAXmommy Jillian, along with PAXdaddy who takes care of the IT stuff that I have no clue how to fix, plus PAXmommy Melanie in Canada who is our blogess and Facebook maven! PAXmommy Christina answers most of our emails and phone calls, & PAXmommy Celia makes your special links and stockings run smoothly, just to name a few of her tasks! PAXtographer Allie who takes amazing photos of our products and also at PAXplaydates, PAXmommy Madison (my new sister in law) is our book keeper, and last but not least, PAXmommy Catherine (my own mama) is our shipping manager who keeps track of incoming product and ships out ALL of your orders! Talk about a family business,
So that’s 8 of us, and we are a force to be reckoned with!!!!

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*happy babywearing*

PAXbaby at MILK


Will you be attending MILK: An Infant Feeding Conference???

Don’t forget to come find us and say HI!!! Look for the RAINBOW umbrella!!!

Which speaker are YOU most looking forward to hearing from??

If you will be pumping at the event, and will not have your own baby there, Baby Sailor  and her mommy will be in attendance and accepting milky donations!! Read more about Baby Sailor here:

Hope to see you there!!
*happy babywearing*

Ask PAXmommy Jillian
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PAXfriends, I want to add some personal writing to our blog!

Do you have questions about my family? I want to share my knowledge and love for parenting, homeschooling, eating healthy, being a doula, and all things crunchy!

What would you like to learn or read about??

Please comment with your wonderings here so I can begin to compile my responses to share!


*happy babywearing*



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The PAXmommies are BIG supporters of milk sharing and donation.

If you are able to pump extra milk or directly nurse another baby, please consider milk sharing or cross nursing, to help boost another baby’s immune system with the amazing benefits of human milk.

Whether you’re a mom to a baby in need of donor milk, or a mama who can share the milky love, is a great place to start!

Baby Bella is receiving donor milk from a variety of breastfeeding mamas and PAXmommy Jillian was her fourth milk sharing mama “from the tap!”


*happy babywearing*


Come Play!

Have you had the chance to attend one of our epic playdates yet??

If not, and you are local to us in Southern California, join our Facebook page for all of the latest info on where we will be NEXT:

Playdates are the perfect place to meet new friends, old friends, and everyone in between! Hang out with the PAXmommies and learn a new carry, try something new, and meet other awesome people that share your interests!
We would love to see YOU!

Have an idea for a fun playdate??? Let us know at
*happy babywearing*

First Babywearing Playdate of 2015


Who is ready for the very first Playdate of 2015!?!
Can’t wait to see YOU there!!!
What do you want to try? What do you want to see??

We are SOOO excited to see all of you there, and start of the babywearing year with a bang!


*happy babywearing*


Best for Babes – Coupon Code

Best for babes


We are SO pleased to be a part of this amazing initiative.
Best for Babes provides amazing breastfeeding support for women and is trying one step at a time to beat “the barries to breastfeeding success’.

Read more about their amazing mission here:


*happy babywearing*


Commonsense Childbirth is proud to host THREE  Uppymama *After Midnight* Auctions, to benefit Commonsense Childbirth!!

100% of the proceeds from these auctions, beyond the opening bid, will be sent to Commonsense Childbirth to provide midwifery care to women who cannot otherwise afford it.

These auctions will run from Monday, March 24th, 2014 to Friday, March 28th, 2014.


Auction #1:

Auction #2:

Auction #3:



<3 This cause is especially close to our hearts, as Jennie Joseph of Commonsense Childbirth was PAXmommy Brianna’s midwife during her pregnancy with her oldest daughter, Delia. <3

Thank you so much for everything you do, Jennie!

Commonsense Childbirth

Commonsense Childbirth: because every woman deserves a healthy baby.

Read all about Commonsense Childbirth and Jennie Joseph’s vision, here: 

Read the inspiring interview with Jennie Joseph from, here:

“We started with the fundamental premise that every woman wants a healthy baby and every woman deserves one. When a woman sees that you firmly believe that, she too is motivated to do the best she can for herself and her baby.”

Jennie Joseph, LM CPM
Midwife, Founder and Executive Director


Our vision is that all women have a healthy pregnancy, birth and baby and our key principle is that no one is turned away.

Commonsense Childbirth’s mission is to ensure access to timely maternity healthcare particularly for minority, low-income, uninsured, and underinsured women; and to provide practical, social, educational and emotional support, resources and referrals as a means to improving the chances for a positive outcome.


Commonsense Childbirth currently operates a birthing center, known as The Birth Place in Winter Garden, Florida which incorporates a new concept, a community-based midwifery clinic called the Easy Access Prenatal Care Clinic. Our goal is to provide Easy Access Prenatal Care Clinic wherever we can partner with supportive agencies and/or practitioners.

Commonsense Childbirth provides an on-site outreach clinic day once a week. Maternity care is provided utilizing Jennie Joseph’s JJ Way® MCH health care system, as well as help with Medicaid applications and referrals to social services as needed. We see all women, regardless of race, creed, sexual orientation or ability to pay, for full new-patient exams, repeat prenatal visits and post-partum care as needed. Education services encompass nutrition, childbirth preparation, breast feeding and parenting support groups. Referrals are made to our regional perinatal service at Winnie Palmer Hospital, Orlando for any high-risk patients that we identify. Healthy, low-risk women who are motivated to deliver naturally are offered the opportunity to deliver at our birth center, all others proceed to the hospital for delivery and return to our care for postpartum follow-up.


We have found that perinatal outcomes have consistently improved in the women who are currently being served by The Birth Place/CSC program. Women in our practice tend to reach full-term, have babies over six pounds and are more likely to initiate breast feeding than similar populations. (See our 2007 Study results). By providing easier access to this model of care in the targeted areas we anticipate being able to continue this positive trend.



Donate here


Read more about The Birth Place:


*happy babywearing*