PAXbirthday9 – holdebaby

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Thank you, holdebaby for providing the most adorable teething necklaces for our PAXbirthday winners! These adorable necklaces are perfect for babywearers and caregivers alike as they not only are amazing for little teethers but can also be worn backwards for your child to play with when they are in a back carry! <3 LOVE! THANK YOU!!!

 

 

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*happy babywearing*
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Milk sharing aka wetnursing

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Milk sharing aka wet nursing or cross-nursing is really common among my group of friends! Many of us have nursed each other’s babies, toddlers, and kids out of necessity or even just to boost our little ones’ immune strength! It’s a truly wonderful way to bond with your most cherished friends; my kids now have milk siblings. Their milk mamas have shared the bond of physical closeness as well as the antibodies that comes from one’s own milk. I can’t think of a more perfect way to show love as a mommy friend!

It’s sad but true that for many years, I felt tethered to my babies who were each exclusively breastfeed for almost 12 months. Until I found my community here in Southern California, I couldn’t physically leave my children without a back up feeding source but once I found my village, I allowed myself to leave my young baby in the care of dear friends who would breastfeed her as needed. My plight of not bottle training and yet desperately needing to go on a date with my husband was solved with one simple statement. “Please feed her when she seems hungry!” Suddenly, our options widened, and PAXdaddy and I have enjoyed quite a few dates since the birth of our daughter in 2013 by leaving she and our 6 older children with friends as well as having provided childcare for other friends wanting to escape the clutches of their little milk monster for a few hours!
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I myself have been able to feed many of my friends’ babies for a plethora of reasons! I was very proud to put my lactating breasts to work one night when I was a doula at a friend’s birth. She had a trauma shortly after delivering her baby so I nursed her newborn through the night while also taking care of my own sweet 5 month old baby. The next morning I put out a call for help, and an army of mutual friends arrived to help with the new baby and also to keep baby’s tummy full of 100% breastmilk! I still marvel at that amazing week and how a group of women could come together to keep one little baby well nourished, clean, comforted while her mommy was under the weather.
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At 32 months old, my daughter, Cate, was still breastfeeding and enjoying the mommy cuddles that it’s hard to find in a large busy family! When our 8th baby, Blaise, was born at just 15 weeks, my milk dried up leaving Cate high and dry. Luckily for her, an entire herd of lactating friends came during the month of May to care for me, my husband, and my children as I recovered from the loss of our beloved baby. She nursed from several mothers over the course of the month and now refers to one of our closest friends as “Mama Milk.” I am so grateful to each and every friend who offered to breastfeed my sweet girl. It means so much to me and made the transition to being a non-lactating mother much easier and less emotional.

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At PAXretreat last week, PAXfriend Evonne had a little snuggle time with #toddlerCate. My lovie was over the moon with the fresh milk, and Evonne was happy to fill her little tummy with liquid gold. I cannot wait to have another baby, have my milk come in, and be able to feed someone else’s baby straight from the tap!
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*happy breastfeeding*

 

 

#PAXretreat2016 Day 1

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Today is Day #2 at our annual PAXretreat with Joanna from Center for Babywearing Studies! Our training session is taking place in Wine Country Temecula, California this year, in a gorgeous house where none of us want to leave! Our PAXretreaters have learned how to teach new parents to use the ring sling as well as how to tie a slip knot with a shorty wrap, and have had some fascinating discussions on babywearing education, our industry, community, and medical issues that professional babywearers may come across in their field of work! Swag Bags filled with goodies that you can browse here at the PAXblog have ben distributed in what Joanna calls “Christmas in September,” and Sakura Bloom will be here at lunch today with the continuing education talk called “Balance: Your Best You.”
Two of the PAXmoms, Jillian & Celia, are currently certified through CBWS, and PAXtographer Allie will be completing her coursework this month as well! We feel so blessed to be able to serve our local babywearing groups with the high level of education that this training provides. If you are interested in becoming a certified babyweaing educator, please contact the Center for Babywearing Studies, and if you would like more information on receiving personal babywearing instruction from the PAXmoms, please email us at help@PAXbaby.com!

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*happy babywearing*
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A Charming Collection

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Thank you, A Charming Collection, for your generous donation of these adorable BUNNY loveys! *awwwww*
Aren’t they precious?? Your little one will love snuggling up to one of these cuties!

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*happy babywearing*
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Rainbows for Days at PAXbaby.com

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Our PAXexclusive Rainbows for Days woven wrap was inspired by the amazing scientific phenomenon of the double rainbow. As with all double rainbows the first arcis vivid with stark contrast between the colors while the second is typically less vibrant with blended colors. Similarly, Rainbows for Days, hand woven by West of the Fourth JUST for PAXbaby.com, features two rainbows, one with clean color changes and one that is a blend of color.

Created in Canada, Rainbows for Days is a handwoven wrap, using a ring spun American cotton warp and West of the 4th Weaving‘s signature super soft flax and tencel weft yarn. Nancy weaves these wonderful wraps on her loom by hand; she often weaves with her baby, Thryn, on her back and her husband, Corwyn at her side. This beautiful exclusive wrap is a cumulation of years of friendship between West of the 4th and PAXbaby.com, and it is our pleasure to welcome these wraps to our beautiful rainbow line up!

With great excitement, PAXbaby & West of the 4th Weaving would like to announce our limited stocking of our beautiful PAXexclusive Rainbows for Days; come back to shop on Tuesday September 13th at 1 PM PDT HERE!

http://shop.paxbaby.com/west-of-the-fourth/

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*happy babywearing*

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PAXbaby at MommyCon

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So much fun was had at MommyCon!! ?? What was your fave part of this past weekend?  Did you snag a photo with us? We would LOVE to see it!

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*happy babywearing*

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Big family chat

What a mom of many needs to survive – other than a good baby carrier (or 2!)
Determination
Grace
Strength
Sense of humor
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Without these, it would be impossible to overcome the obstacles of extreme sleep deprivation, anxiety, breastfeeding issues… Next time you see a mom with many small children, offer to push her cart, hold her groceries, open her car door. Your kind gesture or word could make her day!
 
My husband and I have heard every “joke” in the book about the size of our family, and the only purpose that the negative comments serve is to reinforce why our world needs gentle refocusing on what’s truly important. Do we know what causes this? Yes, shall I explain it to you? Do we own a TV? Yes, although we rarely watch it. Do we plan on having more children? Yes, God willing! Are we millionaires to afford our family? No, we live frugally within our means. How will we send each child to college? We don’t plan to, but each child may choose to attend continuing education classes if they so desire. How do we do it? Juggling, it’s ALL about the juggling! family picture april 2016
I truly will never understand why a stranger would think it’s respectable to discuss our state of financial status any more than it is proper to be discussing where babies come from on the sidewalk with a neighbor. I rarely get peevish, but for this topic, I beg you, please just tell us moms of many how beautiful our children are, how well behaved (if applicable!) and leave the snarky comments, rude jokes and blatant stares at home! Or say nothing at all but offer up a prayer because that mama will need it today, guaranteed!!!
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Different

To those who aren’t who they want to be.What they want to be. Where they want be. How they want to be.

To those who envisioned their life differently. In a different location perhaps. In a different state of mind. In a different physical body.

To all those who were wishing and hoping but your wishes and hopes didn’t come true or fell through or were forgotten while tending to others’ needs and wants.

To all those have been counting on being, having, feeling, doing something different in some way, in any way.

Standing over here, looking into your every day, I can’t see the full picture; I can’t explain why or what or how or when.

Standing over here, looking into your every day, I only see my own reflection, mirrored in the quiet sorrow in your eyes as you play sweetly with your children. My own reflection caught as still as a photograph, doing a mundane task, tears streaming down your face as you take a moment to grieve alone. My own reflection, a twin to your own emptiness, a twin to your own void, a twin to your own infinite pit of abject sorrow and intense anger. What have you lost? A lost world, a lost soul, a lost life, a lost year, a lost month, week, day, hour, minute…. LOST.

Today I sit poolside, sipping my lemon water, listening to the palm trees sway in the wind and in this quiet moment by myself I am allowed to imagine how this day would have should have could have been. A round belly protruding over my bikini bottom instead of post partum love handles. A blissful list of baby names rotating through my head.  A proud expression on my face as someone asks me how many children I have. “8!” I could have said while rubbing my tummy happily.  What a lovely moment spent thinking about my would have should have could have, and then… my children are here and fill the space with shouting, laughing, crying, splashing, eating, jumping, swimming, being, and my thoughts are turned again to focus on the here and now. The reality in front of me. Tangible, incredible, magical, these small beings who fill my every minute with themselves. How well they keep my mind occupied to have these thoughts often, and and how well they keep me too busy to stand and look into your every day, but believe me, I feel your sadness and recognize your hurt. Your life, like mine, will continue. Your world, like mine, will slowly begin to spin again. You will wonder how it is that you’re back in the swing of things, back in the saddle, and back on the road; you will wonder how it is that your life has been so changed and yet, that’s okay. It’s just DIFFERENT.

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*happy babywearing*

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Seasons of Love

“How do you measure a season of love??? 525,600 minutes, 525,000 moments so dear. 525,600 minutes….”
When I think about how many minutes and moments PAXdaddy Aaron and I have spent together over our 17 years of marriage, my only wish is that I could remember each and every memory; the more time passes and the more experiences we’ve had, the more that the good, the bad, and the ugly fade together into one sweet dream. So many hours and days and weeks, months and years we’ve spent together cultivating our personal garden. Each of our amazing children are growing as trees with fruit to nourish us as parents. As each year passes and our trees mature, we are enjoying so much abundant harvest from our personal garden! The seeds were sown with love and care years ago, and now we get to sit back, enjoy the shade and munch on some amazing produce! I’m not saying that it’s all been one long honeymoon; we’ve experienced a blight in the orchard and a few insect infestations, but our life together has been so blessed! With sunshine, Vitamin D, compassion, and communication, I’ve watched our tiny tendrils sprout and stretch into a blissful garden of Eden! Happy anniversary to the love of my life, my personal gardener, and the one who makes ALL our lives go ’round! Here’s to our past 17 years and 17 more, Aaron!

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