Stars and Stripes

Each Independence Day, our family celebrates with a tradition filled with streamers, flags, hot dogs, laughter and sunshine! The PAXfamily opened our home to another family a while back, and now we can’t think of having 4th of July without the Browns. Our children have grown up together over the years, the mamas have breastfeed each other’s babies, the dads have exchanged parenting advice, Volkswagon tips, and Star Wars inside jokes. Not related by blood, but by the friendship and the knowledge that the bond created by listening,caring for each other’s children,and being available any time, any where, our friends have become our family.

When we get together, our children romp and bicker while the parents try to have a conversation over the chaos and uproar that is 10 children under 13 years old. We eventually have to give up, and give in to the conversation that is the loudest – that is the one that the children want to have. Singing Let It Go at the top of our lungs, launching rocket fire crackers in the back yard, creating Pinterest fail patriotic fruit skewers, our little gathering is food for our souls.

Days after this celebration is over, my cheeks will still hurt from laughing, and my husband and I will most likely still have a private giggle over something hilarious said between the parents. In such busy times, such a friendship is a commitment, a unity not easily broken. This year we have high hopes for another amazing holiday spent in the company of friends who have helped to create a nonstressful, generous atmosphere in which our children can be themselves unhampered by the outside world’s perspective.
Here, in our happy bubble, our friends join us and make us feel ever grateful to live in the land of the free and the home of the brave!
Have a happy FOURTH of July, PAXfriends

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*happy babywearing*

PAXbaby’s SmartBall Challenge 2015!!!

Get your kegel in gear with PAXbaby’s SmartBall Challenge!

30 days of work to achieve a strong kegel! Keep it up after the challenge and you will be amazed at how awesome you feel!

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PAXbaby‘s SmartBall Challenge! Each day in January 2015, PAXmommy Jillian will help you get on the great habit of using your SmartBalls to strenthen your Kegel muscle! By the end of the 31 days, you can expect to feel stronger, have better bladder control, and be able to say I TOOK PAXBABY’S SMARTBALL CHALLENGE!!!

#1 – Get your SmartBalls out of the packaging and wash with warm water and gentle soap. Let them air dry to get ready for Day #2! The hardest part is getting started, so let’s START!

Day #2 – Lather up your SmartBalls with your favorite personal oil and insert them, leaving the pull string out of your body. After a few moments, pull the string to remove! Wash again and air dry! That’s it; easy!!!

Day #3 – Insert your Smart Balls as previously described but this time, set a timer for 5 minutes. During these 5 minutes, just stand or walk around. Don’t try to clench, but let the Smart Balls sit within your body; get comfortable with how they gently move within you! I’m not going to remind you each day to wash and dry your SmartBalls so don’t forget on your own!

Day #3 – Today during your 5 minutes, walk and stand and add in a little sitting. See how your body reacts naturally to your movements.

Day #4 – Repeat Day #3.

Day #5 -Today is Day #5 of PAXbaby’s SmartBall Challenge and we are going to celebrate by inserting your SmartBalls and instead of letting gravity do the hard work, fight against that pull, and kegel kegel kegel during your 5 minutes. Try to kegel at least 5 times during this time!

Day #6 -Insert your SmartBalls and instead of letting gravity do the hard work, fight against that pull, and kegel kegel kegel during your 5 minutes again. Try to kegel at least 5 times during this time holding to the count of 10 each time!

Day #7 -Repeat Day #6.

Day #8 -Insert your SmartBalls and instead of letting gravity do the hard work, fight against that pull, and kegel kegel kegel during your 5 minutes again. Try to kegel at least 10 times during this time holding to the count of 10 each time! This time, do a few squats while exercising your Kegel muscle and feel how much strength your body has. If you find that you don’t have much strength, do a repeat later in the day.

Day #9 -Repeat Day #8. It’s crucial at this point that you do a repeat later in the day if you are unable to hold the kegel for 10 seconds! Please don’t pass over this important step!

Day #10 – Today we up the ante! Keep your SmartBalls in for 10 minutes while doing a variety of activities – standing, sitting, and squatting!! Try to get 20 awesome clenches in and count to 10 while holding the kegel!

Day #11 – Repeat Day #10!

Day #12 – PAXbaby’s SmartBall Challenge BIG day! Since your goal is to have more control over your bladder, you are going to test and see how your kegel is doing! Today, instead of using your SmartBalls, you are going to practice starting and stopping your pee as you urinate. Crazy talk, I know, but as you let your kegel release, you will be able to feel how much power you have! Can you stop your pee multiple times? Does it come to a trickle or does it fully stop? Take notes if you want, and remember to drink lots of water to give yourself multiple times to practice!

Day #13 – Keep your SmartBalls in for 10 minutes while doing a variety of activities – standing, sitting, and squatting!! Try to get 20 awesome clenches in and count to 10 while holding the kegel!

Day #14 – Repeat Day #13!

Day #15 – Repeat Day #13!

Day #16 – Repeat Day #13!

Day #17 – Repeat Day #12 and gauge whether your control has improved! Can you completely halt your pee? Does it take a LOT of effort or is it pretty easy???

Day #18 – Keep your SmartBalls in for 10 minutes while doing a variety of activities – standing, sitting, and squatting!! Try to get 20 awesome clenches in and count to 10 while holding the kegel! Keep up the good work!

Day #19 – Repeat Day #18!

Day #20 – Repeat Day #18!

Day #21 – Repeat Day #18!

Day #22 – Let’s celebrate with a SNEEZE! Choose your most effective way to stimulate your olfactory senses and SNEEZE! Hopefully you have been practicing so much and so hard that your kegel will know JUST what to do! But if not, here’s a reminder : clench and squeeze as you sneeze to avoid having wet pants!!!

Day #23 – How did you do yesterday with the SNEEZE challenge? If you did awesome, enjoy a day off! If you need a repeat, try again!

Day #24 – There’s not much time left in PAXbaby’s SmartBall Challenge! Let’s get back to our kegels : 10 minutes, 20 kegels, 10 seconds each, and… GO!

Day #25 – 10 minutes, 20 kegels, 10 seconds each, again! Is this easy for you now? Can you reach the goal of 20 kegels easily? How about 30?

Day #26 – Here’s a question for you! If you set a timer for 1 minute and do quick kegels with your SmartBalls in, how many can you do? Now, remove your SmartBalls and set the timer again! Can you do more or less with the SmartBalls in????

Day #27 – Need to practice again? Let’s do this! Stay active for 10 minutes! 20 kegels should be an easy goal by now; can you do 30? Whoa, what about 40???

Day #28 – Keep going strong. PAXbaby’s SmartBall Challenge is almost over but not quite yet! Repeat Day #27!

Day #29 – It’s PEE day! Can you bring your pee to an absolute stop today? 1 time? How about 5 times? Stop and release, stop and release! Your kegel can do this; you’ve been practicing!!!

Day #30 – In 2 days, I won’t be reminding you to kegel, but you will need to remember on your own! What can you do to keep practicing? Will you set an alarm on your phone? Will you ask someone to remind you? Will you leave your SmartBalls under your pillow??? Today did you practice? Because look, I didn’t remind you!!!!

Day #31 – The struggle has been real, but with PAXbaby’s SmartBall Challenge of January 2015, you are on your way to a tighter, stronger year! Keep those SmartBalls handy; please use them every other day starting today for just a few minutes to remind your kegel who’s boss! Good luck & thank you for taking the Challenge with me!


*** Awesome hints about your SmartBalls*
No time is too short to practice! Got 5 minutes? Pop em in!

No time is too long to practice! If you are enjoying how the SmartBalls feel, keep em in! A few hours maximum!
You can pee with your SmartBalls in! Remember, these bad boys are inserted into your vagina; your pee comes out your urethra! Different holes for different purposes!

Keep your SmartBalls clean!

SmartBalls love coconut oil; it reminds them of sunbathing in Hawaii! But if you have a difference lubricant preference, just double check that it is appropriate for silicone products!

And one last though, have fun with your SmartBalls!

They can be very useful in many different ways!

Don’t have Smartballs?
Get some and begin the challenge!

*** Please refer to your midwife or doctor’s advice before starting to use SmartBalls or following a birth. The PAXmoms are not medical professionals, just helpful moms who want your kegel to grow nice ‘n strong!***


*happy babywearing*

paxbaby’s HTF Wrap Conversion Ring Sling PARTY!’s HTF Wrap Conversion Ring Sling PARTY!

Due to confusion with the review section on each product, a comment left here at the PAXblog will also count for your entry!!!!


PAXfriends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears… today will stock at 8 am PST TODAY  an epic assortment of wrap conversion ring slings! Some of the listings are easy peasy; choose your sling, add to cart, check out! But others will take some luck & skill! Jan at sleeping baby productions has converted a handful of GORGEOUS HTF (hard to find) slings for us that will be sold via random winner here!!!! The fine print is :  you will need to fill out the form on each of the product listings that you would like to purchase AS WELL AS commenting on the product page itself so that we can read how much you really really really need this sling! This sounds like a lot of work, doesn’t it, but believe you me, these steps won’t take you long and the pay off is BIG TIME! Today you will see slings listed that you don’t see sold at retail prices very often, and they will be yours for the winning!

Please note that if you are chosen via random drawing to purchase a sling listing, you will be contacted through the email address you have used on your PAXaccount so be sure to have that updated! Also, your link will be live for 24 hours after the emails are sent out. Failure to check out is your loss, but another mama’s chance at winning!!! PayPal will be active, and any gift certificates you may have can be used as well!

Do NOT forget to enter AND comment on as many slings as you love!!! 

*happy babywearing*

Want a SURPRISE?!?!?!

PAXbaby is super duper excited to have #babycate’s Girasol legacy wrap back in time to stock for her FIRST BIRTHDAY! This has been the fastest year, and to celebrate her amazing 365 days being earthside, #babycate would like to give away a *freeeeeee* WRAP CONVERSION RING SLING!

The rules are simple – comment here with which weft you would prefer AND make sure that your name at the PAXblog and account information at the PAXwebsite are the same so we can send you your gorgeous prize!


**Fine print :

  1. The Surprise Rainbow ring sling is one size (around 78″ inches.)
  2. The weft choices are *cuervo* (black) or *rosa fuschia* (pink!) You may choose one or say either and we will choose for you!
  3. You may only enter once, but as many people in your household with a PAXaccount may enter.
  4. Shipping is FREE in the USA, but if our winner is International, we will let you know how much the shipping will be.
  5. Enter, share, and please stay updated for our SURPRISE stocking next week! Details will be announced soon!

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*happy babywearing*

PAXbaby’s ISO Angel presents VICE VERSA!

PAXbaby Girasol Exclusive Vice Versa twill weave

THANKS to PAXfriend Marisol H, for the adorable VICE VERSA in action photo! See more on the go VV here at PAXbaby’s Facebook page!

You’ve seen the wrap, you’ve loved the design from afar, you’ve heard of this idyllic unicorn, perhaps you’ve never lain eyes on her before in person… but all of you are here now because YOU LOVE VICE VERSA! Here is a poem dedicated to the lovely VV penned by enthusiastic PAXfan, Sara L! Enjoy!

How do I love VV?
Let me count the ways.
I love VV for its warp and weft and weave
Soft brand-new, like you can barely believe
Its stunning jeweltones, the way the colors are so bold.
My love for VV is worth its weight in gold.
Enough to write poems about it every day
And pray the ISO Angels will see fit to send one my way.

Oh, you aren’t here for a sonnet? Don’t be impatient!!! Here’s what you’ve been waiting for :

Last call for entering PAXbaby’s Vice Versa ISO Angel will be 10:59 PDT on Thursday October 23!

Good luck from the ISO Angel to each one of you! Chase one of these beauties down to make her your own, and you won’t be sorry for the time you spent convincing, conniving, corralling, and collaborating! Vice Versa can be yours – and in your eager hands in a matter of days!! Just fill out the form, share with your friends, post a photo on the PAXbaby wall, hold your breath, wish on a rabbit foot, throw salt over your shoulder, cross your fingers, cross your toes, cross your legs….. actually, just fill out the form and the PAXmoms will do the rest for you!

If your name is chosen by the ISO Angel, you will receive a link to a private stocking for Vice Versa on Friday October 24 at 1:00 PDT. There will be the same number of wraps as names chosen, so shop early for the best selection of sizes!

Vice Versa ISO Angel Stocking Fine Print:

*Only one entry per household

**Vice Versa wraps will only ship to the name and address on file for the accounts chosen by the ISO Angel!

***Vice Versa wraps will only be sent to PAXfriends who have filled out the form and received our email with the stocking details! All other orders will be cancelled and refunded!

****One Vice Versa wrap per account will be shipped. Any subsequent orders will be cancelled and refunded!

*happy babywearing*




Magic Ball recipe!

Magic Balls are magical! OBVIOUSLY! Made with only TWO ingredients, you can whip these babies up in a matter of moments! And they will be eaten that fast too! With a 2 to 1 ratio, you can make as many or as few balls as you like per batch, but let me advise you that you should make many!!!

Ingredients :

2 cups of your favorite hummus (or mashed chickpeas)

1 cup bread crumbs (I used gluten free)

Directions :

Mix together

Form balls

Bake at 350 degrees for 15-20 minutes

Serve with a fun dipping sauce (or not)



*happy babywearing*

PAXrecipe for Perfect Parfait!

There’s been record breaking heat here in SoCal the last week or so and cooking with a hot oven on has sounded less appealing as each day comes with new highs and not very low lows! Today I made {almost} all my kids happy by whipping up this yummy and, more importantly, COLD snack! Filled with protein AND fruit, these Perfect Parfaits were so easy to make and even easier to eat!

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Perfect Parfait

Prep Time: 5 minutes

Total Time: 5 minutes

Yield: just 1 perfect serving

Calories per serving: 350ish


Ingredients :

  • 3/4 cup granola
  • 1/3 c blueberries or your favorite berry
  • 1/2 T honey or maple syrup (we used agave today but my husband has since explained that agave has more fructose than high fructose corn syrup, yuck!)
  • 3/4 c nonfat Greek yogurt

Instructions :

Layer half of the yogurt, blueberries, and granola! Repeat! Then top with honey or syrup! Then EAT IT UP because as Donkey says, “everyone loves parfait!”


*happy babywearing*

#babycate is teething!

My sweet, adorable, precious #babycate is teething. My usual happy & energetic baby girl is listless & sad, unable to to console, and obviously in pain! I had a peek at her upper gums, and oh my, that looks just as awful as she sounds! Breastfeeding, cuddling, and taking it slow will help her feel better, but you know what else will too? Essential oils!!! Do Terra to the rescue, I dabbed a little lavender mixed with fractionated coconut oil on the soles of #babycate’s wee feet & watched her mood immediately change! Perking up, she crawled away from me & began to babble in her baby voice a thankful exclamation! The teeth may still be pushing on her gums, but the lavender oil was able to comfort & soothe!

*happy babywearing*

Dying for a Jack Tula!?!
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For the Halloween lovers and Nightmare enthusiasts, lament no longer; it is time for the Jack Tula stocking! Well, almost time! Enter PAXbaby’s ghoulishly spooky drawings to see if you will be chosen for Wednesday’s stocking – October 1 at noon PDT!  This is a 2 step process : #1 – enter the drawing and #2 – win the stocking! Still confused? Just follow Jack’s directions and you will do fine!
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Click here to enter the STANDARD size Jack Tula drawing

Click here to enter the TODDLER size Jack Tula drawing.
* Please note that this drawing is not for a free WC Jack Tula, but to be eligible to purchase a WC Jack Tula at the stocking! – See more here & here
**You may enter for both sizes, but you will only win one opportunity to purchase.
*** There will be more names drawn than carriers available to purchase! Receiving an email does not guarantee you a carrier! This is still a REAL STOCKING, so you will need to have quick fingers – we are just improving your odds at scoring!
**** Payment will go through the cart, and PayPal WILL be available!
***** You have until 9 PM PDT 9/30/2014 to enter the drawings. The Jack stockings will take place on October 1 at noon PDT.
******ALL entries must be accompanied with a post here with which size you would prefer!

*happy HAUNTED babywearing*

#babycate is WALKING!

#babycate is officially WALKING! And falling! A LOT!
Good thing my little one is a tough cookie because her little feet can’t keep up with her body!!!

When did your baby take their first steps??? Were you happy? Relieved? Sad? Yeah, me too…. (((hugs)))

*happy babywearing*